Familial Pain
I am very grateful to The Philadelphia Inquirer for printing my letter.
Genesis 21: 1-21 tells the story referenced. The Bible was given to members of the writer’s Bat Mitzvah class, a gift from their beloved Baltimore Orthodox Jewish rabbi, Dr. Uri Miller and their synagogue, Beth Jacob.
To the editor:
I feel sickened watching Donald Trump play Russian roulette with lives—taking over the Washington, D.C., police force as he plans his Midas ballroom, revealing his ruthless endgame: Do all possible to rule out a 2028 presidential election. I feel rage watching Benjamin Netanyahu turn Israel, once respected as a principled democracy and trusted friend of the U.S., into a pariah nation. I cannot control a racing heart and tears as I see the tormented faces of the starving in Gaza, the wide-eyed children too weak to cry, and the agonized faces of Israelis, waiting to know the fate of their missing loved ones.
It is necessary to understand what causes hatred to destroy decency, allows envy and jealousy to destroy love. And to unite to protect ourselves, our country, our future, from leaders with these deficits.
Psychologically, I believe Trump was terrified of his father’s capacity for cruelty, which he saw destroy his brother. Trump knew if he disappointed his father, this rage would be turned on him. To protect himself, he became his father’s bullying clone. Netanyahu lives in the shadow of his older brother, Yonatan (Yoni), his parents’ adored oldest son and favorite child. Revered in Israel, Yoni was the architect of the brilliant, successful 1976 Entebbe hostage rescue mission, where he died at age 30.
Netanyahu’s blind determination to hold onto power has led to world condemnation of himself and his country. Going back to ancient times, Abraham’s abandonment of his older son, Ishmael, begs impact examination — it has led to centuries of Arab hatred toward his father’s chosen son, Isaac, an embodiment of the Jewish people.
Trump does not have the inner resources to recognize the damage of bullying and shaming. Netanyahu will never see the roots of his refusal to grow honorably to maturity. But the long standing pain of hatred, humiliation, envy, and rivalry between brothers can be healed when awareness is strengthened by action. Jews worldwide must determine somehow, someway to recognize the horrific impact of Ishmael’s rejection—and take the lead in plans to enter a decimated Gaza under U.N. protection, bringing food and medical supplies, offering healing and preservation. In this way, working together, brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews, parents and offspring, will transform desert into homeland. Millions worldwide will not only embrace this effort. They will actively participate in it.
SaraKay Smullens
Philadelphia
Published in The Philadelphia Inquirer, August 22, 2025